I’m seeing the term “Thin skinned” being tossed around a bit.\u00a0 It got me to thinking about what I see in ‘thick skinned’ and ‘thin skinned’ people and where I fit in the equation. (O.o)<\/p>\n
For one… I consider myself to be quite thin skinned.\u00a0 There are some things that I simply allow to get to me.\u00a0 At the same time, there are some things that I can totally shrug off.\u00a0 So, what is that?\u00a0 What is ‘thick skin’ anyway? (-_-)<\/p>\n
I can imagine 2 ways of being ‘thick skinned’.\u00a0 The easy one is being born with it.\u00a0 The other is starting thin skinned but gradually thickening as time passes. (<.<)<\/p>\n
… To be born with thick skin.\u00a0 I guess that can lead to the bullish personalities we face once in a while.\u00a0 The kinds of people who don’t want to be ‘messed with’ from the get-go… But, hang on, I think I’m already wrong here.\u00a0 Usually the bullish personalities are quite reactionary.\u00a0 They’re generally paranoid that people are out to get them which triggers the ‘don’t mess with me!’ response. (O.o)<\/p>\n
Geh… There’s more layers here than I thought there were.\u00a0 Stupid flow-of-thought. DX<\/p>\n
Either way… Thick skin… Okay, so these are the people who can take the brunt of abuse and just dust it off.\u00a0 Mind you, if you hit hard enough, they will still be hurt.\u00a0 But, that makes the hitter look more the jerk given the amount of effort exerted in order to get under the thick skin.\u00a0 I guess that makes them great people to have around in order to stand up to bullies. (^_^)<\/p>\n
But, thin skin.\u00a0 Just about everything is an injury.\u00a0 There’s not much to break through to get into this person.\u00a0 Ah, there’s the reason for being so defensive… Or even aggressive or even a bit crazy.\u00a0 Just thinking of it now.\u00a0 If someone is so vulnerable, they build up different defense mechanisms that are more consciously driven and active than their armored counterparts. (>_<)<\/p>\n
What can I call it?\u00a0 Maybe, a ‘flailing personality’? (O.o)<\/p>\n
It can come in the form of bullying, the most offensive way to defend a weakness.\u00a0 It can exhibit itself in isolation, paranoia, maybe even depression and … antisocialism? (O.o)<\/p>\n
When someone’s thickness is formed over time, it may exhibit in different ways.\u00a0 This is just me thinking. As long as the words are flowing through my head, I’ll be stabbing at the keyboard. =^-^=<\/p>\n
Anyway… To develop thin skin over time… To develop thick skin over time… I don’t know how to separate the two. (._.)<\/p>\n
What I’m thinking is that both types are products of some sort of abuse.\u00a0 Some injuries dig deep and leave behind sensitive scars.\u00a0 Others build up and allow a callous to form.\u00a0 Either way, it’s a change and bound to impact how someone handles conversation and dispute. (o.o)<\/p>\n
Where am I going with this?\u00a0 I dunno.\u00a0 I’m just going. (O.o)<\/p>\n
Well… Myself.\u00a0 I consider myself someone with skin of variable thickness… Ruddy?\u00a0 Calloused?\u00a0 I wonder if there really is a fun word for that. (O.o)<\/p>\n
I’ve recognized a lot of my life has been affected by forms of semantic griefing<\/a> in one form or another.\u00a0 From the emotional blackmail that defined my marriage and even affects it today.\u00a0 To the utterly dishonest trolls I face online.\u00a0 …<\/p>\n Oh! Just thought of something! (O_O)<\/p>\n My marriage.\u00a0 What has been wearing away at me has actually been forming a callous.\u00a0 Why, I say?\u00a0 Well, given events of the past year or two I have changed my role completely.\u00a0 This coming July marks two entire years without any physical self abuse.\u00a0 And, I’ve recently put my foot down on subjects such as religion and personal space. (-_-)<\/p>\n So… I’m thin skinned with callouses.\u00a0 I guess that makes sense.\u00a0 There are things I’m still allowing to get to me. Liars, for one.\u00a0 I have the unavoidable urge to defend myself and the people I care about.\u00a0 Lies, I can’t stand lies.\u00a0 I feel the need to address them.\u00a0 I have a fear that someone I care about will believe that lie and there goes yet another friendship. (T_T)<\/p>\n Am I wrong for thinking this way?\u00a0 Probably. (._.)<\/p>\n But, hey… It’s just me.\u00a0 I’m hard headed.\u00a0 I guess it’s best to grow skin thick where it matters.\u00a0 It’s finding what matters that winds up being the tough part. (._.)<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I’m seeing the term “Thin skinned” being tossed around a bit.\u00a0 It got me to thinking about what I see in ‘thick skinned’ and ‘thin skinned’ people and where I fit in the equation. (O.o) For one… I consider myself … Continue reading